Think positively. When it comes down to it, reality is perception. If you feel confident, you are. If life is falling apart around you but you don’t notice, it’s not really falling apart, now is it? So get on thinking those happier thoughts! You’re not deluding yourself one way or another — don’t worry that you’re being silly for thinking positively — you’re just taking control.
- When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, tell yourself to stop. It has been shown that simply telling yourself to stop can help break negative thought cycles. You can also try to reframe your thoughts. For example, if you think that you are fat, reframe it in a less negative way such as “I’m unhappy with my weight. What am I doing about it?” It doesn’t have to be all sunshine and rainbows; you just have to be less hard on yourself.
- Positive thinking leads to a positive, more confident disposition. When you think negatively about yourself it becomes habit and all of a sudden you’re thinking negatively about everything. You become gossip-y and complain-y and one of those people that is always putting something else down.
Be grateful. Alright, you’re still at a loss? Then just start with being grateful. The more things you realize you have going for you the more you can sit back and go, “Huh. I guess life is pretty darn okay.” The only sad part is it isn’t!
- Seriously. You probably have clothes on your back, talents, people who love you, and a future, just for starters. That’s the stuff most people have — what else do you have that’s unique to you?
Smile. There’s a ton of arguments on thought and behaviour and what comes first. Turns out your mind actually takes cues from your body. So get to tricking your mind and smiling!
- Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin. If you force a smile, you will literally be happier. Not look happier, not seem happier, be happier.
- Smiling reduces stress, lowers your blood pressure, and improves your immune system.
- Smiling makes us more attractive to others.
- Happier people are, generally, more confident. That’s the idea here. No room for worry when it’s all good!